Random Thoughts: Tues, March 30, 2009
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I hate that f’ing ring-tone.
Every time I hear it, I know that within an hour, he will be asking me if “I mind” if he goes out with her. He might ask if “I mind” if he takes the kids to hang out with her.
Truthfully, I don’t mind at all if he does any of those things. She’s a nice lady and he cares for her and enjoys her company and I look forward to the quiet time without him and I appreciate the time away from the kids, too.
I do mind that he asks me only AFTER he’s made plans. So, if I say “yes, I do mind”, I’m the bad guy, despite his bad manners. Therefore, I never say “no”. My response is usually, “I don’t care”.
I do mind that he asks me as if I have a choice, in any manner. Because I came home late from a date, one evening, he made it difficult for me to make plans with “Z”. Whenever I told him about my plans, he would start a fight and tell me that since I was late, I no longer had the right to see “Z” at my leisure (even if he had plans with “her”). This all got to be too much to deal with, so I ended up breaking up with “Z”, since we could no longer be part of a productive relationship. I should have put my foot down and told him that if I couldn’t see “Z”, then he couldn’t see her, but that felt childish to me. I tried to wait him out, in hopes that he would grow a brain and some compassion and allow “Z” and I to continue seeing each other. But, it’s been two months and he won’t even discuss it.
I do mind because not only does he continue to see her, after having given me a passive-aggressive veto regarding “Z”, he continues to have a sex life with her. I have no sex life. At the same time that he determined that I was not worthy of the right to see my boyfriend, when I saw fit, he also determined that he would no longer have sex with me. So, he gets to keep his girlfriend and continue sleeping with her. I get to sit at home while he goes out with her doing gawd knows what 3-4 times a week (or more). Sure, I go out with my friends, once a week, every couple of weeks or so. But, it may as well be a bridge club or an afternoon tea. It’s not the same as being able to spend intimate, affectionate time with someone you care about who cares about you, who touches your heart and your body in such a way that you can’t get enough of them. I get enough of my friends after spending two or three hours watching them get drunk and flirting with the nearest hunk of man, while I sit at the bar and watch; green with envy at the attention they are receiving.
No, this is not polyamory. At least not when one party is “allowed” to do as they wish and the other party is force to wait for “permission” to participate on the same level playing field.
I would leave him, if I could. But, I lived life as a single mother, for nine years before I met him and I have no intention of going back there. So, I’m playing the martyr, but I’m keeping my mouth shut. He knows that I’m unhappy, but he doesn’t care (he has said as much). For now, we are glorified roommates. We get along.
I’m just tired of hearing that f’ng ring-tone.
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Ten Post Round-Up: Big News in Digestible Bits
Well, it looks like, with a little help from her handlers (and a trusty earpiece) Palin made it through last night’s debate without breaking down like a South Carolina beauty queen. But, then again, I was enjoying Lemon Meringue Martinis, last night and following along on my Blackberry. I’m sure I missed the really good stuff.
It’s Friday and I am up to my ears with “to-do” lists, so still keeping the Ten Post Round-Up simple, today.
It being the weekend and all, if you are dateless, you might considering using this very interesting dating service to find someone to while away the rest of this political season with.
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Ten Post Round-Up: Big News in Digestible Bits
Tonight is Palin’s big night! The gawker in me is tempted to watch and play our typical speechification drinking games. But, if I’m going to spend an evening listening to incoherent people, I’d have much more fun at a neighborhood bar.
Still keeping the Ten Post Round-Up simple, today.
Before you check out the debate, tonight, you might want to check out Obama Girl promoting her new Sarah Palin movie.
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Ten Post Round-Up: Big News In Digestible Bits
I’m not going to get to wordy in the Ten Post Round-Up for the next few days. I’ve got so much going on now, that my brain is on overdrive.
Before we get to the meat, I offer you up the potatoes; proof that politics has gone to the dogs…
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Ten Post Round-Up: Big News in Digestible Bits
What a wild roller-coaster ride the last few days and certainly the last few hours have been!
I’m just relieved that the market is closed right now because I was getting dizzy watching it.
There’s a lot of wild stuff in today’s Ten Post Round-Up. But, before we get into that, let’s see what our favorite uncle has to say about all this: Uncle Jay Explains The News.
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Ten Post Round-Up: Big News In Digestible Bits
A lot of juicy stuff in today’s Ten Post Round-Up.
But, it’s still not as hype as the debate a lot of viral young men might rather see tonight: Obama Girl vs McCain Girl Olympics.
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Ten Post Round-Up
Even without a clock or a calendar anyone with a radio or a television can see that we are coming down to the wire in this political season. The ads are getting nastier and the blowhards talking heads are getting louder.
Maybe some of you will find something to help you forget all that nonsense in today’s Ten Post Round-Up…On second thought, I doubt it (*wink*).
Before we go any further, I must ask you a question: Does it bother you when McCain plays “the age card”? Read the rest of this entry »
Ten Post Round-Up
Two good things about Fall: 1) fashionable clothes that don’t require the revealing of copious amounts of skin and 2) only a few more weeks left in this election cycle.
Thankfully, I have the first one sewn up, easily, since Fall fashions favor big girls, like me. But, this continuing election cycle is getting on my last nerve. Now, with the economy in full-blown crisis mode, the yammering from both sides of the political spectrum is really making me long for the days when the latest news I read about came from a Scholastic Newsletter.
But, like any good blogger, I cannot look away from the spectacle that is this (or any) election cycle and so, I will dutifully post today’s Ten Post Round-Up for your amusement and edification.
Speaking of edification, I wonder what Uncle Jay has to say, today. Read the rest of this entry »
Ten Post Round-Up: Aargh! Edition
I totally slipped up not posting, yesterday. I had to get a new phone
and my dealer hooked me up with the lastest form of crack, also known
as the Blackberry (Curve, flavored). I just want to thank John McCain
for making that possible.
I started researchin’ for today’s Ten Post Round-Up and I had this whole “opposite day” theme planned. Then, I realized that today be “International Talk Like A Pirate Day” and decided that I would run with t’ pirate theme instead and save t’ “opposite day” theme for some other day that I will likely forget in t’ future.
In keepin’ with today’s theme, I humbly offer you Rex Smith, Linda Ronstadt and Kevin Kline: Pirates of Penzance – Modern Major General for your enjoyment. Read the rest of this entry »
Ten Post Round-Up: Short and Sweet
Today is my oldest son’s 19th birthday and I rolled in just past my bedtime after attending a concert in a neighboring city, last night. Although, I’m a tad wound up, I am still a bit tired, so I’m keeping today’s Ten Post Round-Up short and sweet. The goal, today, is to describe each link in three words or less.
In keeping with today’s theme, I humbly offer you a little “Sweet Baby James” for your enjoyment. Read the rest of this entry »
