It Feel Like I’m Playing An Episode of “Survivor: Diva Island”
Well, I gave up on poly-bachelor number one and got nothing but pathetic hits when I posting a new ad, so I went to another site and reposted the old (first) ad.
It hasn’t even been two weeks since I posted that ad and now I am getting swamped with responses. Obviously, many of them were rejected due to obvious differences; difference in needs and desires, not what I was looking for, too young, too old. Thankfully, due to the abundance of responses, I can afford to be very picky at this point. THANKFULLY.
Last week, I started the “meet and greet” process (what some others might call the “blind date”). So far I have met two men in person and have 2-4 dates lined up in the coming days.
I was really attracted to contestant number one, but when we met in person, there were no sparks. Trust me, he’s hot, but on that whole “weak in the knees” test, the tribal council is totally not feeling that he will be able to rise to the occassion. He’s been given immunity for now, but it looks like he may end up getting kicked off of the island.
On the other hand, the tribal council is totally feeling contestant number two. We met for lunch and although I had seen his picture and recognized him right off, I was not prepared to be swept away by the look in his gorgeous brown eyes. He’s attractive, but he definitely passed the “weak in the knews” test.
I’m supposed to be meeting contestant number three, this evening when I am done setting up for work. Not really feeling this one, but he’s local and he seems completely smitten with me. But, if he stands me up, he’ll be evicted from Diva Island, in a heartbeat (just as any other tardy contestants will also be evicted. Like I said, thankfully, there are plenty of contestants at this point, so I don’t have to pretend to waste my time on someone who is not at the test site at the appointed time.) He’s seems like a nice enough guy, but he seems a little overanxious, which might just be genuine nervousness. His pictures and cam don’t thrill me, but he could surprise me, so I am going to give him a shot before I snuff out his torch.
Sunday: Contestant number four. Score so far: not feeling it.
Wednesday: Contestant number five. Score so far: very impressive. I definitely feel like we have a vibe going between us. I haven’t even seen a picture of him. But, we have been chatting every day and I enjoy our conversations very much. He seems to be smitten with me and I have to admit that I am genuinely smitten with him as well. He may very well give contestant number two and definitely contestant number one, a run for their money.
Thursday: Contestant number six. Score so far: curious. We haven’t spoken very much and I have not seen a picture of him, so I have no way with which to measure him properly against the other contestants. But, hey, a girl’s gotta eat, so I’m game to meet him anyway.
These are dates that I have already accepted. There are couple more gentleman who have been considering making plans to meet me, but I believe that I will be declining any further invitations partly, due to the fact that I am already too busy and partly, due to the fact that I already have three decent candidates on the hook, right now. I don’t want to fall into the same trap where I apparently rushed too quickly to pick the last one, so I want to be completely sure that I am making an informed decision on the next one. But, I also don’t want to get bogged down with too many incredible suitors to choose from, either.
biggerlove said,
October 30, 2008 at 9:55 am
Good luck with the hunt. I know it’s a tough one for us because so many men “just don’t get it” when it comes to the whole poly-thing.
Lucius Scribbens
freespiritdiva said,
October 30, 2008 at 10:10 am
Well, you are right about the fact that so many men (and even women) “just don’t get it”. They equate polyamory with swinging or with an open marriage (i.e. the kind of marriage where either one or both spouses are allowed to sleep around with whomever they please whenever they like and/or without the alter spouse knowing who’s who in their little games of mattress mambo).
Now, personally, I don’t mind playing “mattress mambo”, but it’s nice that I am familiar with whomever my spouse is sleeping with and likewise, he will be familiar with whomever I choose to sleep with. It makes me feel much more secure, on so many levels.
On the luck factor, I have been having a lot of luck finding men that do understand (whether they want to participate in a poly-monogamous relationship or not). And, I am lucky enough to have met several who are open to what my husband and I are seeking.
I guess now, I just need luck in picking the right one (cuz the King says I can only anoint one Knight at a time…sigh…).